Showing you care to those in your life on a regular basis is more challenging than it sounds. it extends out from personal categories to include all living beings. There are no expectations of anything in return. The people we hold closest and dearest to us are often the ones we expend the least amount of effort in displays of caring and affection. Yet, most people appreciate and need the occasional display of caring.
It’s not hard, but it does take a conscious effort on our parts, and one that we may need to remember to do at least once a week, if not every day. Becoming a caring person starts with you own reflection of personal experiences from childhood through adult. However, you can change your own thoughts throughout your life. Respecting and caring for others in your personal life and in business are important and should develop to be a good habit. “Caring: It’s not a lesson, it’s a way of life”, said Dr. Ruth Wilson, Ph.D., a Professor Emeritus of Special education at Bowling Green State University in Ohio.
Remember the golden rule “Treating another person as you want to be treated” and try not to forget the basic caring culture:
- Treat people with kindness and generosity.
- Help people in need.
- Be sensitive to people’s feelings.
- Never be mean or hurtful.
- Think about how your actions will affect others.
- We become caring people by doing caring things.
One day going shopping with my husband, while I was in line at a cashier, I heard his conversation with a girl who is also shopping. He was very involved in this conversation. I’m not sure how the conversation started but it sounded like she was stuck in her job and had no hope for the future. He asked her “What is your dream?” He inspired a total stranger to reflect on her inner personal life dream. He was not so rushed to get out of the store, but took the time to care. He was just doing this because he likes to help and enjoys making people feel good. He could see that this young girl was thirsty for approval and guidance. It showed how much he cared and tried to bring out her self-esteem and confidence. I overheard he said: “Sound like your character would be great to be in sales. You will be good at it.” And, “know what you want to become, focus on it and don’t give up.” At the end of this conversation, I could see how her face lighted up. She said “I enjoyed talking with you, nobody listened or cared about what I am thinking or dreaming. You have changed my life.”
We become caring people by doing caring things when the opportunity arises. Caring builds good relationship. You need to have a caring attitude toward everyone, not only for the benefit of serving the community and helping others but also make us feel good.
As an entrepreneur in business, you have the same ability to have a positive impact each and every day with everyone that you come in contact with, at every vulnerable time.
Never create a caring agenda or do “caring” things with the expectation of better thing to be returned. As Steven Schussler said I his book “It’s a Jungle in There”, caring is something that should flow honestly from the heart, from a true sense of concern for others, no from the head, where to puts forth a robotic, intellectual effort for feign caring in search of personal gain.
Caring comes from the heart, the more you practice anywhere you go, the more it becomes a good habit, especially at work. Your good habit will increase the productivity and keep you employee moral high. You create trust and loyalty by consistency showing your clients and employees that you care about them and the work they do. For example, go out of your way to greet your employees, ask “How is your day?” or just simply offer a complement. Set the example for your caring culture with your employees and they will carry it over to your customers.
The people who really care about you will support your efforts towards a more successful way of living; the others will vanish out of your life, that is okay and is a part of the process. Later you will be surrounded by caring and loving humans who respect, support you and your boundaries. That makes life happier and a lot more meaningful. It’s never too late to care!
Schussler, Steven, and Marvin Karlins. It’s a Jungle in There: Inspiring Lessons, Hard-Won Insights, and Other Acts of Entrepreneurial Daring. New York: Union Square Press, 2010. Print.